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“I have a very dedicated boyfriend who would do anything for me. I feel so blessed, except for one thing: he’s the jealous type.

He doesn’t like most of my guy friends, and since I’m quite social, his attitude has created tension between us.

I’m seriously considering spending my life with him, but I don’t want to be cut off from my friends.

I know jealousy isn’t easy to fix. I don’t want to constantly choose between him and others.

What can I do to improve the situation?”

People who are highly jealous often have an anxious attachment style, exacerbated by Social Comparison Bias.

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This bias leads them to feel envious and competitive with those who seem better in some way, creating unnecessary mental burdens.

It’s natural to compare yourself to others and assess your own standing and progress, which can motivate improvement.

However, it can also lead to feelings of jealousy, resentment, and even depression, particularly for sensitive individuals.

The good news is that the same Social Comparison Bias can help alleviate unpleasant feelings.

To help your boyfriend, share some of the difficulties or challenges your friends have faced or overcome.

This can provide him with a fuller picture of your friends and reduce his negativity.

It might also help him empathize more and feel closer to them.

Additionally, highlight areas where your boyfriend excels compared to your friends to boost his confidence and satisfaction in the relationship.

After all, nobody’s life is perfect.

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