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"I met a charming, witty man the other day, and I can't stop thinking about him.

I'm not sure if he feels the same way romantically, but he's someone I'd like to keep as a friend if it doesn't lead to romance.

I want to ask him out to get to know him better.

I'm considering several options—concert, restaurant, park—but I want it to feel natural and avoid any awkwardness.

Of course, I'm hoping for a high chance of a 'yes' to my request. What's the best approach?"

Whether it's moving, buying electronics, or negotiating a contract with your landlord—anything that could use an extra pair of hands or a second opinion works.

First, it's hard to say "no" to someone asking for help.

<Identify The Generous Type>

Second, you'll naturally get to see how they solve problems and work with you as a team.

<Who Is a Problem Solver?>

Most importantly, helping triggers a psychological effect called "Effort Justification."

When people put effort into something, they often rationalize that effort by increasing the value of the goal they're working towards.

<The Stick To Your Guns Kind>

If he puts in effort for you, his mind might whisper that you're special.